Question #126

I have been married to this man for eight years. He has a spinal injury and is confined to a wheelchair. When we first got married, he was walking with canes, and he told me that it was temporary that he would walk again. However, shortly after we got married, he sustained a fracture and refused to continue therapy so he could walk with canes again but instead requested a wheelchair. Our relationship has deteriorated sexually and otherwise. He is now impotent. We haven’t had sex in over five years, and I have never cheated on him. He does not want me to work..so I can serve him hand and feet. He refuses to go on disability because this is his way of controlling me. He brings in the money, and I serve him hand and feet and remain his prisoner. I am now 51 years old, and I just can’t take this anymore. It is driving me crazy. I want a divorce, but the house is on his name, and I have nothing No job, no money. Every time I get a job, he manipulates me into quitting. Please help me. I am not a greedy person. I just want to be compensated for all the time I gave to him. I have had no life since the day I married him. He managed to alienate me from all my friends and family. I would appreciate your advice on how I can go about getting a divorce from this man and be able to get something to start a new life. I am a medical transcriptionist by trade, so I can still get back in the job market and be able to take care of myself, but right now I have no money of my …my mother left me $13,000.00 when she died, but he put it on both our names, and we don’t have even that much in the bank anymore. Thanks again.

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Question #127

My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We live in New York. He left the house. We have two children together. I make more money than him. Do I have to pay him alimony? Does he get half of my pension? Do I have to be legally separated for him to only get 1/2 my pension for the time we were married? Thanks!
 

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Question #156

I have a friend facing a divorce. He is quite wealthy and faces losing well over 50% of all he had before his marriage. I am retired with very little cash, and I live in Thailand in a small one-bedroom condo. I have often borrowed money from my friend and currently owe him US$20,000. I am selling the Condo that will allow me to pay him back. He has made me this offer, but I am worried if it is legal. He said he would buy my Condo before his divorce. He wants to pay me US$500,000.00 for it !! Its worth maybe US$45,000.00. He will tell his wife I ripped him off, and he lost the US$500,000 cause he bought my apartment for ten times its value. He asked me to set up an offshore company and put the excess cash in a bank in the Caribbean until the divorce is over; this will wipe out my debt to him. It’s a real good deal for me. I questioned the legality; he said if he makes a bad investment, that’s his problem. If the wife wants the Condo, she can have half of it. Are there any loopholes in his plan? Right now, he has access to the money US$500,000 being maybe 1/4th of his wealth. She will be mad as hell, but what can she do? It is his money. Can I get into trouble, can he? Any advice much appreciated. 

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Question #256

I live in NY and have been married for 23 years. We have just started proceedings for a divorce, and I found out that my soon ex to be taken out a second mortgage on the equity of our house (yes, I signed because he told me he was refinancing). Am I entitled to 1/2, and should that be put into the divorce agreement? 

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Question #267

after 32 years husband moved out this past weekend. He is a VERY successful business owner since 2003. He refinanced the house to start a business in 04- now has removed a safe with large amounts of cash & important documents what can I do?? has purchased new vehicles & computer what are my rights there? They were for the business, so he says he has NO grounds for divorce christ I was the perfect wife though I did lose my job after 14 years from a school district due to budget cuts. I am 55 years old, and he is 52. I cannot find a job that would pay me enough to support the house which by the way was “sold” to us by my mother for $10, and she was granted life residency There was in the past physical abuse, and there is a lot of mental abuse – I am not allowed to speak for fear of being told I complain all the time I have NO money for a retainer hate the idea of using credit cards to do this he will NOT go to counseling says they always blame him …. HELP please !!!

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Question #229

I live in NY. I have been married for 38 years. My husband left the marital home, claiming that it would be for a while to get a business out of state up and running. He advised me that the company purchased a house in Maryland for him to live and for the workers for the construction of business, etc. It was also to our advantage for him to become a resident of Maryland as my son was in college, and it provided in-state tuition status. Always being told the business was having difficultly with start-up, and it did not appear that the move back was soon. He then sold the house, which later I discovered was just owned by him, and relocated to Virginia as it was too much for him to commute to Washington, DC. During this time, he would come back to NY for all holidays, some weekends, etc. He then sold the one place in VA and moved to another. Later he claimed again the expenses were too much to carry, and he was going to share with a male friend an apartment in DC. He had the accountant who took care of our taxes, who also is an accountant for business had us file separately. I was on the payroll at that time at the DC store. He said the reasoning was to build my social security. I trusted and brought into the whole storyline as my life was complicated by having fragile health issues, a dying parent, house fire, and then being in charge of my mom’s estate took three years out of my life. He had always provided me with the profits out of one of the stores. Upon receiving a check, I found an address embedded into the check, one that I did not recognize. After researching, I found it was listed in his name and another woman. More searching found he owned two other homes and one attached to her name as well and a child that he fathered. He removed me from the payrolls and started providing directly for my support. It has been four years since all of this came to light. Our marital home he has promised that he would turn over to me…and of course, I am always put at bay. He is a principal in a business with others. I have no clue where I stand to pursue a divorce. There is no legal separation agreement; only an oral contract of what he will provide financially. As of now, both of our healths are not the best, and he claims he has nothing anymore.
I am becoming very concerned that he has converted a large amount of our funds to property, etc. in her name or the child’s name. She has relocated from the VA to FL within the last year. He claims he lives with a friend in DC, is in the process of selling a home in VA, he claims the status of living in FL for tax purposes and present deed is showing his mailing address for FL. Where do I stand legally? My son recently has offered for me to stay in an apt. He owns in NYC. I think it would be advantageous for me to make this move for health reasons, as well as the courts, are more liberal than where I live if filing for divorce is the solution. I worry about my health insurance, as well as maintaining the house. It was always our wish that the home went to the boys upon our demise. We wanted the boys to spend much time with me there on weekends- it has always been their home. Your thoughts on what would be in my best interests?
 

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Question #314

I have an urgent question and would appreciate a prompt response, please. I met my husband 16 years ago overseas. We were married 14 years ago. We have one child, a seven-year-old boy. We live in NYS. I brought my husband here through a marriage visa and taught him English and how to drive. I left my Pharm D program to support him typing applications for months while we moved in with my parents, who supported us. My father took out loans (as my husband did not have any money) to pay for his 33 residency interviews. During the residency, I typed all his medical notes and worked 30 hrs a week, as his English wasn’t that good.
I continuously gave up great job opportunities in my field to support him and help him. Once he was finished with residency, he decided to apply for a fellowship. I typed his applications every single day, I did everything for him, many times while he slept. During the marriage, when he was angry, he was abusive, verbally, and sometimes physically. However, there were good times, and he was kind at times. 2 years ago, his mother became ill with terminal cancer and moved into our home, while I was finally concentrating on my studies (boards). I took care of her with him for six months; she then passed away. However, when she was here, she was at times rude to me, and she did cause a considerable strain in the marriage, making the problems worse. As soon as she passed, when we thought we could find some normalcy. My father became ill and was in the hospital for six months. We found out he has pancreatic cancer with a poor prognosis. Thus the past two years have been extreme stress. Since about six months ago, my husband started to pick fights with me for no reason, which made me so angry, because he wasn’t there for me with hardships I’m facing about my dad like My entire family was for him. I thought he was just crazy. However, a few weeks ago, he has been so adamant about an urgent divorce. I had asked him to move out last year, and he didn’t. Long story short, I thought it was so heartless that he is asking me to sign with a mediator RIGHT NOW that my father has such limited time left. However, I found out he is cheating on me with a nurse at his job. He doesn’t know that I know. I tried to talk to him, and he was going to change his mind, but she texted him all night and changed his mind back. I explained that I could not go through two major crises at once, and he seems to be in such a rush. I think this may have something to do with her or her finances . I also just found out that he opened a Money market for a lot of money, and possibly wiring money elsewhere. I feel like I don’t know him anymore. Not only am I going through my father’s crisis, but I’m also ill right now, this is the worst possible timing of him to do this to me. I just don’t understand it. I have injuries from an accident. I have untreated sleep apnea and a boatload of other stuff going on. I am not even sure if I can handle what I’m going through with my dad and functionally taking care of my dad with my illnesses. The additional emotional devastation I will incur from his leaving us high and dry, after everything I sacrificed for him. If he is emptying accounts and putting things in his name, does that not get divided? Can you think of a financial reason he is rushing me so much? What can I do to protect myself and my little boy? Is there any way to delay this process so I can deal with my father first? I got our joint checking account statements, and I do not see any withdrawals for the amount he deposited into the money market. Is there any other way he is getting money? Please advise on these questions asap. I’m so sorry for the long post. If he is emptying accounts and putting things in his name, does that not get divided? Can you think of a financial reason he is rushing me so much? What can I do to protect myself and my little boy? Is there any way to delay this process so I can deal with my father first? I got our joint checking account statements, and I do not see any withdrawals for the amount he deposited into the money market. Is there any other way he is getting money? Please advise on these q’s asap; I’m so sorry for the long post.

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Question #318

I have a question in regards to back taxes owed by my ex-spouse. At the time we were married, he owned a small business in which he was the sole owner. We officially separated in 2011. Our divorce was final October 2013, but the judge signed the final decree in July 2014. During the time he had this business, and through our marriage, my role in the company was just to keep track of the projects he was working on (mainly construction on hotels). After 2011 he made it difficult for me to gain access to file any tax returns and even took me off our joint bank account. After pleading with him for years for the information to file taxes, he, to this day, is unwilling to cooperate. I don’t want to run into any problems with IRS, and our final divorce decree does state he is responsible for any back taxes owed. I’m aware IRS doesn’t always accept this, though. Since May 2014, he changed the company name, and we are no longer in contact. I was also awarded 51% of his business when it had the original name and not the new one he recently formed. Can I file for bankruptcy on that business since it was awarded to me 51%, and there is no way of getting that information from him? Or can I file for injured spouse relief? I have not taken any action into actually putting the original business in my name and still stands in his name only. Thank you for taking the time to read and in advance for responding.

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